Suicide is a very sensitive topic. Thinking about it or even discussing it openly is considered a taboo here in the Philippines. It’s one of the topics that are not openly discussed within a household. To talk about it is against Pinoy’s nature because we are deemed conservatives.
Suicide is tough. Not just for the one who’ll commit the deed but for those who’ll be left behind. The father who’ll have to bury his son or daughter. The mother who’ll have to choose the right dress for her deceased child. The family member who’ll have to make funeral arrangements. The siblings, friends, relatives, or even an acquaintance, they’ll be haunted by the loss of a life. It is tough.
At the same time, we don’t know how hard it is to the person contemplating on doing it. We always say that life is hard. That everyone is having a hard time too so just suck it up. But not everyone is as strong as the other. Everyone is living a different life, and walking on a different path at a different pace. Your plight is different from friends’. How you handle them is also different story.
This post is not to endorse suicide or to suggest it as alternative to facing our demons. This post is a plea to everyone to stop thinking that everyone who commits suicide is weak. Suicide is never an option. But maybe for some, at that exact moment, it was their only option. For me, they are not weak. What they did is exactly not bravery but what do you call that? They had the courage to end all of their sufferings but only by using the wrong solution. They were brave for a moment. A wrong moment to be brave about.
Suicide is never an option. If you have suicidal thoughts, talk to someone. There’s nothing to be ashamed about if you have them. Talking about it helps not only you but also the people around you. Maybe if we talk about it more, suicide would never become an option.